Homophobia, Transphobia and Marriage

Happy Monday and welcome to a new Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia post! There are so many wonderful people participating in the Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia, so be sure to check out the Hop’s website for links to blogs.  Just a remember – I’m running giveaways for an ebook copy of one of my back catalog books (you can see them all here), a Blue Notes Series t-shirt, and a paperback copy of one the Blue Notes Series books to three winners, so be sure to comment on one of the HAHAT posts here to be entered.

I’m a straight woman.  And although as a woman (and as a Jew), I’ve experienced some bigotry and prejudice, I have never felt as though my life’s choices are dictated by society.  I have pursued several careers (opera, law, and now writing), and I dated, lived with, and eventually married the man I chose to spend the rest of my life with.  I know how damn lucky I’ve been to live my life as I chose to live it.  But let’s face it, too many people don’t have the choices I’ve had, even here in the United States, where we like to think we’re progressive and welcoming.

Those of you who know my story know that I sang opera professionally for more than a decade.  In that time, I met many man, most of whom were gay or bisexual.  Wonderful, gorgeous, sweet men who deserve happiness as much as any other person.  I remember one of my fabulous colleagues who sang the role of the villain Scarpia in Tosca.  Absolutely gorgeous, supremely talented baritone who was my inspiration for the character of Aiden in Aria.  He was in a committed relationship with another man; a man who flew in for one of the performances.  I remember him saying that he hoped they’d stay together, but the statistics weren’t good.  This was back in the early 1990s, and he said the worst thing was that there were so few role models for gay relationships.  Marriage was completely off the radar screen at that point.

Fast forward about 17 years, and I was in San Francisco for Yaoicon, having dinner with my cousin.  Beth is a wonderful woman who is in a committed, life relationship with another woman.  They have two incredible children together.  We spent an evening out at a restaurant downtown and caught up on life and careers.  Beth and her partner are both attorneys who live in the Castro.

On the way back from dinner, I asked Beth why she and her partner didn’t get married while it was still legal in California.  She said she didn’t need a piece of paper to tell the world she was married to Jill.  They had two beautiful children, they owned a house together, and they’d been together for nearly 30 years.  Add to that, Beth’s parents’ marriage ended in a bitter divorce.  She said she could live without that.  And I understood.  Totally.  But we both agreed that having the choice was something important.  Just because she chose not to marry doesn’t mean she shouldn’t have been able to choose.

So as I write this post in my second year of participating in the hop, I have mixed feelings.  On the one hand, nearly a quarter of US states have legalized gay marriage.  On the other, states like the one where I live and work have amended their constitutions to prohibit it.  The tide is turning, but it’s up to us to get the word out and get people to speak up about marriage and equal treatment of LGBTQ people in our own communities.  So please join me in writing to your senators, congressmen, and other government representatives and telling them it’s time that marriage equality is the rule and not the exception.

I said before that I know I’m preaching to the choir.  But the choir has a loud and persistent voice.  Let your voice be heard!  -Shira

PS:  For those of you who haven’t yet read the excerpt from my WIP, Encore, it’s below.  Encore spans my lifetime.  A lifetime that’s seen positive change.  But the pain remains and the work still needs to be done.  Part of what I hope to show in Encore is how that pain affects people and their life choices. Is there a HEA?  Damn straight!  But it’s a hard won happiness.

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Chapter One

 

October, 1971

Toledo, Ohio

 

John wound his way around gaggles of girls who blocked the hallway like a twisted obstacle course. He dodged a locker door here, someone slinging a backpack full of books there, and nearly got whacked in the gut by a kid holding what looked like a trumpet case. John’s elbow connected with the hard fiberglass of the case as he pivoted to avoid the collision.

Shoot. That was going to make one hell of a bruise. Not to mention it hurt like hell.

He rounded the corridor and stepped inside the band room, relieved to find it empty. He leaned against the wall and took long, raspy breaths to try to calm his pounding heart. He wiped the sweat off his face with his hands, then rubbed his hands on his brown polyester pants.

“Hiding?”

“What?” John nearly jumped when he realized he wasn’t alone. His voice sounded high and girlish to his ears.

“Are you hiding?” The speaker was a kid with wild brown hair and a hint of shadow on his jaw. He was seated on one of the chairs by the podium, twirling a violin bow around like a baton.

“I… N-no.” Damn. Was he stuttering now? He hadn’t stuttered since elementary school.

The kid just laughed. “You new here?”

“Y-yes. Transferred last week.”

“You got a name?”

“J-John. Fuchs.” John’s face was on fire as he croaked out his name. “W-who are you?”

“Roger Nelson.” Roger ran a hand through his curly hair, which only served to make it stand up on the top of his head like horns. John was reminded of a devil, and it wasn’t just the hair.

“N-nice to m-meet you, Roger.” John walked over and offered Roger his hand.

Roger laughed and ignored the hand. “Yeah.” John could see that his eyes were a deep green. Luminous. “Where d’you transfer from?”

“Saint B-Barnaby’s.”

More laughter. “So you’re slumming it with us now?”

“I guess.” He sure wasn’t going to tell Roger about his parent’s divorce, or about how his parents had decided they no longer had the money to send him to private school one year before graduation. “I hear you’ve got a great orchestra.” At least he wasn’t stuttering anymore. He’d spent years in speech therapy in elementary and junior high school, but when he was nervous, it sometimes came back.

“We’re pretty good,” Roger said. John knew this was an understatement. His mother had done her homework—Marysville Senior High School’s orchestra had won the state Division A championship the year before. “You play?”

“Piano. But I play viola, trumpet, and flute.” When Roger’s eyes widened, John quickly added, “Not very well, though.” John looked down at his feet and studied them intently. “I’m going to be a conductor.”

When Roger didn’t respond, John asked, “How about you?” He realized how stupid a question it was the instant he’d asked it. Of course the guy played violin.

Roger raised a sardonic eyebrow and John wished he’d just disappear into the linoleum floor. “Concertmaster.” In spite of the casual response, John thought he saw a hint of pride flash in Roger’s eyes. “I’m going to be the guy who hangs off the back of the garbage truck.”

“Oh.” What do you say to that? He had no idea if Roger was joking, but he sure wasn’t going to embarrass himself by finding out.

Roger stood up and began to put his violin away. He was a little taller than John—who was now nearly six feet tall—with a lanky body and surprisingly broad shoulders. Good looking, too. John’s face warmed once more.

“Is Mr. Constantino in his office?” he asked, mostly because he was having a really hard time trying not to stare at Roger. He didn’t really need to speak to the orchestra director.

Roger shrugged. “He was there a little while ago.”

“Thanks.” John waited for Roger to say something, but when he didn’t, John made his way over to the office at the far end of the room.

 

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By the time John finished talking to Mr. Constantino, grabbed his books from his locker, and headed outside to the main courtyard, the sun was beginning to set. The air was cool, not surprising for late October in Northern Ohio, so John set down his pack and zipped up his poplin jacket. The smell of fallen leaves mingled with a more pungent odor. Marijuana. He looked around and saw Roger, seated on the low brick wall at the edge of the courtyard, smoking a joint.

“Hey.” Roger inhaled and held his breath.

John swallowed hard, unsure of how to respond. “Hey.” Oh, that was great! “Uh, h-how are you?”

Roger laughed and exhaled as John walked over. He held out the joint to John. “Want some?”

“No thanks.” He’d never even come this close to the real thing. “I’ve got to get going. Bus leaves in about five minutes.”

A girl with hair down to her waist walked over to them. John was sure Roger was going to hide the pot, but instead he held it out to her and she took a long toke. Roger put his arm around the girl’s shoulders and shot John a knowing look.

“Who’s he?” the girl asked as she blew smoke in John’s face.

John coughed and blinked.

“New kid. Orchestra.”

“I’m John.” John offered the girl a smile. He’d decided shaking hands was not public school etiquette after meeting Roger earlier.

The girl just stared at him, then turned to Roger and proceeded to kiss him. Not just any kiss. A French kiss. John felt sick to his stomach watching this. He’d always thought that kissing girls was gross. Now he was sure of it.

Roger kissed the girl back, then pushed her away. “Need a ride?”

The girl glared at Roger, who ignored her.

“I… ah… s-sure.” John wasn’t sure at all, but Roger had been the only kid who’d acknowledged his existence since he’d arrived at Marysville and he figured it’d be rude to turn down the offer.

He and Roger walked in silence to the parking lot, where Roger led him to an enormous brown Buick. Small blue and pink spots dotted the exterior where someone had, he guessed, sanded off patches of rust in preparation for a paint job that never materialized. The windows were rolled down and the doors unlocked.

Roger grinned. “V-8.” When John didn’t respond, Roger continued, “This baby can outgun just about any car on the market.”

“Groovy.”

Roger’s laughter echoed off the nearby building. “Jeez, what the hell did they teach you at St. Something?”

“St. Barnaby’s,” John corrected, feeling keenly awkward.

“Yeah. That place. Nobody says ‘groovy’ anymore.”

“Oh.” John’s cheeks burned and he stared down at the blacktop, focusing on a weed that had forced its way up through a crack and pushing it with his shoe.

“Get in.”

The slippery fabric of John’s pants propelled him over the vinyl bench seat as if someone had greased it. He stopped sliding about a foot away from where Roger was, key already in the ignition, his left foot releasing the parking brake. John looked around for a seatbelt. There was none.

“Always buckle up!” His mother’s voice resonated in his brain and for once, he ignored it.

“Where to?” Roger had started the engine, which roared to life, backfired once, then settled down to a noisy rumble. “This baby purrs, doesn’t she?”

“I… er… yes.” Then, realizing he hadn’t answered Roger’s first question, he added, “2430 Covington Drive.”

“Fancy part of town, huh?”

Not for long. The realtor had come by the other day, and John thought he’d seen her drool when his mother had told her they needed to sell quickly. He wondered where they’d end up. Probably one of the duplexes closer to downtown. The places people moved in and out of on a regular basis.

He often walked the dog by the duplexes on garbage night, curious as to what ended up on the tree lawn after the latest renters had left. He’d found an entire stack of LPs one night, including a boxed set of Tchaikovsky’s Greatest Hits and a recording of the Singing Nun. He’d hidden them in his closet—God forbid his mother find out he’d been going through other people’s garbage. She’d have a fit.

He hummed a bit of “Dominique” and smiled. He’d always liked that song. Dominique, neekah, neekah…

“What’s that?”

Roger’s voice brought John back to the here and now. “Nothing. Just a song.”

Roger reached for the radio as they stopped at the light. The radio blared, and John winced inwardly. He didn’t like loud rock music—it gave him a headache.

We’re not gonna take it! Never did and never will.

“We’re not gonna take it,” Roger sang along. “Gonna break it, gonna shake it, let’s forget it better still.”

Roger looked over at John and grinned.

“Who’s that?”

“The Who. That’s who.” Roger snorted, a look of smug satisfaction spreading across his face.

“Oh.” John had heard of them, although he’d never heard their music.

“Cool, huh?”

“U-huh. Cool.” John made a mental note not to mention the Singing Nun and to use the word ‘cool’ instead of groovy.

As they drove, John watched Roger. He wore a pair of off-white painter’s pants with a half dozen pockets and a hammer loop. John couldn’t help but notice how the pants pulled at Roger’s crotch when he sat. Roger’s shirt was a blue plaid flannel, unbuttoned to reveal a dusting of curly hair on his chest. John’s mouth was dry, so he chewed on the inside of his bottom lip. He felt a pulsing feeling in his groin and shifted to accommodate his embarrassing erection. He prayed Roger wouldn’t notice.

Disgusted with himself, he thought of his first and only discussion of homosexuality with his father.

“Fucking fluters,” John’s father had said as they watched the evening news report in the living room about a riot in Manhattan at a place called Stonewall. “They should have shot them all.”

John, who was about fourteen years old, had just stared at the images on the TV. “What’s a fluter?” he asked.

Jerome Fuchs had looked down at his son and snorted. “Homosexuals. Deviants who prefer to spend time with their own.”

When John had just blinked in response, his father continued, “They don’t like women.”

“Why not?” John was genuinely curious.

“How the hell should I know?”

Six months later, after Raymond Lessor kissed him in the coat room, John figured out what his father had meant. He was exactly the kind of man his father had been talking about.

“You okay?” Roger turned down the radio and looked at him.

“Yes. I’m great.” He forced a smile and realized they’d just turned onto his street. “Oh, that’s my house, about halfway down.” He pointed.

Roger pulled into the driveway a minute later and John, backpack held in front of him like a shield, climbed out of the car. Slid, really.

“Thanks, Roger.” John waved tentatively, feeling like a complete idiot.

“It’s cool.” Roger turned on the radio again and pulled back out of the driveway. He waved, then gunned the engine and took off down the street, leaving a cloud of white smoke in his wake. John waved the smoke away and watched the car disappear around the corner.

“Cool,” he repeated as he swung his backpack over his shoulder and headed into the house.

7 comments

  1. Patricia Nelson - Reply

    I agree with you 100 percent! I can’t wait to get my hands on Encore! =}

    • Shira - Reply

      Thanks, Patricia. Just about done with the changes to the manuscript before I send it off to Dreamspinner!

  2. Hanne - Reply

    I can’t say anything other than that I totally agree. Equal legal rights and freedom to choose!

    I’m waiting with bated breath for John and Roger’s story! Thanks for the excerpt. 🙂

  3. Susan - Reply

    I agree with your cousin that marriage is not necessary to establish a committed relationship, but everyone should have that option. How can some South American countries, such a macho culture, approve same sex marriage and some US states, supposedly more enlightened, ban it completely? So repressive.

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